“Verbal bullying includes name-calling, insulting, intimidating, mocking, threatening, taunting, teasing, and making racist or sexist comments. When does teasing cross the line and turn into bullying? Not everyone agrees, but some researchers see both teasing and bullying as points on a continuum of intentionally hurtful behavior, different only in degree (Froschl, Sprung, and Mullin-Rindler, 1998). One study (Oliver, Hoover, and Hazler,1994) found that children are confused about teasing: They said it was done in fun, but they also ranked it as the most frequent bullying behavior. Verbal abuse is the most common form of bullying for children of, both sexes, even young ones (Kochenderfer and Ladd, 1996; Nansel et al., 2001).” – B. Kaiser and J.S. Raminsky, p. 254

Next Steps

Last summer I worked a bit with the people who developed the website NextSteps Idaho. I found it was a good resource for lots of information even if you weren’t the target audience (Idaho residents).

For example, here is a fun page where you can imagine your best life and see what it takes to maintain your chosen lifestyle. Create different scenarios and see how it affects the bottom line.

I find it helpful for my audience to check in with reality. Maybe internet cost is not something one would think of when designing a sustainable income. We think of rent and food and car, but what about clothes, entertainment, or — children?

I admit this page is geared toward Idahoans, but many of the other pages (especially the aptitude sections) are free, fun, and full of awesome info. Perhaps I’ll get a chance to highlight some of those in future.

So many books, so little time — a Quiet review

I’ve been reading so many books since my last reviews. Where to start?

For a book that will make you think, — try “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain. Ok, maybe that describes most librarians, but I found deep thought around this topic and plenty of balm for my guilt for not being more… what? — outgoing? boisterous? charismatic? humorous?

Why can’t the world see that some just need a little space once in a while? There’s nothing wrong with that. If you agree (and even if you don’t), “Quiet” will convince you that if you’re wired such that you enjoy alone time, there is reason to create that space and hang on to it.

Oh, and there’s even a TED Talk.


Still thinking about “Seraphina” by Rachel Hartman

I’m still talking about Seraphina when asked about what I’ve read this year, though I finished it several months ago. It was outstanding to me on multiple levels. I made a list of what I found in the book.

  • prejudice
  • secrets
  • music theory
  • shame
  • victory
  • gifts
  • and more

Well as you can see, it made me think on several levels. I mostly agree with this review. It’s a bit long, but very accurate as to how I experienced the book. (True confession: I read both books and agree with their take on the second book too.)

A big part of this review is the expansion on Rachel Hartman’s ability to portray Seraphina’s mind work — what’s going on in her head. This is a fascinating aspect to the book and raises it above normal for this genre in my estimation.

Thank you for reading!